Astrological Compatibility - The Astrology of Relationship, Part I - Aspects

By Visjack Nick


Astrology can teach us much about our relationships with others if we spend some time having to know the symbolic language on the more intimate level. Generally after people speak of astrological compatibility they are speaking of their sun signs only. What you'll always hear is "I am a Leo and I commonly do not get along with Scorpios" or "I am a Virgo and Pisces men and women quite drive me crazy." What is missing here, of course, is an understanding of what it's about other men and women that really challenges us on the deeper level

To get a clearer understanding of astrological compatibility it is needed to delve into two facets of astrology: the issues and also the aspects. The items we use in astrology are fire, water, air and earth. Each astrological sign falls into a single of these categories. Aries, Leo and Sagittarius are the fire signs which are typically associated with our capacity to perceive on an intuitive level. Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces are water signs which relate to the emotional aspects of our being. Libra, Aquarius and Gemini are all air signs and correspond for the mental or intellectual plane. And finally, Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo are the earth signs and relate to the physical or sensate qualities we possess.

The aspects are the interrelationships or dynamics that exist between the elements. The aspects determine the relative ease or "dis-ease" in which the things will operate. For example, in Figure A single I have laid out the things in their natural relationships. As you possibly can see fire and air and water and earth oppose each other (180 degrees apart). In addition every element is squared (in a 90 degree relationship) with each from the other elements. These a couple of relationships, the opposition and square are probably the most complicated with the aspects in between the elements. Does this mean then that if you happen being an Aries (a fire sign) that every earth, water and air sign you meet are going to be a challenge to you in some way? Fortunately not!

In Figures 2, 3 and 4, I've laid out three diagrams of how the signs aspect or interrelate with every other. To interpret these examples all you do is discover your birth sign and compare that in the other signs on your particular diagram. With the Aries birth, for example, you would discover that your relationships with Cancer, Libra and Capricorn would be challenging. Another water, air and earth signs inside the remaining diagrams would not be as tough and, in most cases, would be pretty smooth going.

This is due to the fact as an Aries you'd be in sure aspect (trine) from the other fire signs and positive aspect (sextile) with the other air signs outside of the diagram. Similarly, should you are a Taurus you will find it a lot more complicated being around Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius and simpler to become within the other earth signs and water signs outside of your unique diagram.

To demonstrate how these principles operate inside a relationship I'd like to share with you the dynamics of a couple I worked having a few years ago. She was a Scorpio with 5 of her ten planets in that sign and he was a Taurus in the exact same amount of planets in Taurus. As you'll be able to see within the diagram Taurus and Scorpio are opposite every other and theirs was a traditional illustration with the opposition relationship. In these kinds of relationship, that is quite common, (remember the old adage, opposites attract?) the couple usually draws the opposite to them to your function of healing and getting whole. What happens many times though, is how the couple ends up spending most of their time doing the other person's simple fact wrong!

In this situation she was the emotionally expressive one during the relationship and tended to become sort of "spacey" and incredibly ungrounded in her body. He was the epitome of the "classic" rational "I do not feel it unless I see it" sort of guy. He wasn't interested or able at the time of "being with" her deep, emotional material and she wasn't able to see the certain aspects of his earthy qualities. That is not to say how the opposition relationship won't work. It's just a lot more hard since it requires that each partners honor and accept the gift that their partner is offering them. It also takes good discipline to consciously develop the parts of ourselves that is over created in our partner so that we don't need them to be whole ourselves.

The square relationship can be really well-liked and I call it the "growth through confrontation" relationship. The crux of this relationship is that every partner challenges the other to maintain growing usually through confrontation and conflict! Within the square relationship it usually looks that the couple undermines and thwarts probably the most intentions of every other. The certain side of this type of relationship is that it provides lots of energy and motivation to break out of old ways of relating. The only trouble is that it truly is quite painful for all of individuals involved. Nevertheless, for individuals which are really committed to growing each individually and being a couple and who being a good deal of fireworks in their relationship, the square relationship can also be very dynamic and can create many breakthroughs.

The conjunct relationship, or relationships that share the exact same sign, are probably the most rare and probably the most challenging. Due to the fact each partner is similar in numerous ways there's a compelling pull to merge in the other and to blur the boundaries that give rise to individuality. Objectivity tends to obtain thrown out the window and it becomes extremely complicated for ones couple to distinguish wherever they stand in relation to each other. The reward of this balancing act is a relationship that reflects a singleness of purpose, and an intensity that provides motivation for accomplishing much together.

Interestingly sufficient the "easier" relationships, the trine relationship (both partners during the exact same element) and also the sextile relationship (fire with any air outside one's individual diagram, or water with any earth element outside one's own diagram) are not as popular as the a lot more difficult relationships we've been discussing. Possibly this accounts for the high divorce rate that exists in this country! Perhaps we choose the difficult relationships to move beyond what our familiar patterns of relationship have been. Because 1 in the gifts of becoming in relationship is the opportunity to grow both individually and in relation to others perhaps we require that extra challenge to quite motivate us to improve and grow.




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